Last Friday was certainly a very historic day for those supporters of same-sex marriage here in the United States. It is now the law of the land and same-sex marriage is legal in every state. Judging from the reaction of many people over this ruling, you would think that legalizing same-sex marriage is the greatest thing to ever happen in this country. Unfortunately, myself and many others fail to share in the hysteria and joy over this event. This is sure to create more headaches and problems down the road than our country can ever imagine. Same-sex marriage is a very divisive issue that will certainly become more divisive down the road.
The ruling by the Supreme Court over this issue was 5-4, hardly a clear-cut majority decision. It is very unfortunate that a small group of people get to decide what is best for over 318 million people. The rationing behind the justices who supported this ruling is very narrow and close-minded at best. There is no question in my mind that they are just serving their own little biased opinions in finding a way to make this issue the law of the land. I find that the 5 who agreed with the decision are guilty of failing to look at what potential consequences are in store for this nation by making same-sex marriage legal in every 50 states. I have a feeling these justices or any potential new justices will be very busy in the upcoming years.
One of the first questions that I would ask a justice is what are the limits of marriage equality? Why would polygamy not be legal now? As a single straight male, I may love 3 women at the present time. According to the rationale of the justices and supporters of this new law, people now have the right to marry who they love. What about my right to marry those 3 women? If you are going to re-define what marriage is about, you are going to have to look at the possible scenarios down the road. Suppose that I wanted to marry one of my closest cousins? Currently in my state of Minnesota, I cannot. It is not legal for cousins to marry. So where are my rights? There is no end to the number of so-called “non-traditional” marriage unions. Some couples may even want to marry and live together to take advantage of the tax breaks that married people have. Nobody has ever given me a good answer as to where we need to draw the line. Marriage needs to have boundaries and this ruling just opened up a lot of potential confusion about the rights over who people can and cannot marry. If you are going to give gays the right to marry their partners, you need to include the rights of other people who feel the need to have “non-traditional” marriages as well. What about a bi-sexual person? Do they have the right to marry both a man and a woman? Imagine some poor child who is involved in a family with multiple lovers? Where do you draw the line? Unfortunately, the justices apparently failed to realize that this may happen very soon. Given some people the right to have a so-called “non-traditional” marriage and denying another person that right will lead to much confusion and resentment in the future.
Perhaps the biggest problem that will result from the ruling is the rights of religious institutions. Contrary to what some people may believe, religious institutions and people of faith DO HAVE RIGHTS!! Since gay couples now have the right to marry, I would assume that several will want to hold a ceremony inside a church or have a pastor perform a wedding. Suppose it is against the religious beliefs of the pastor to perform the wedding? The gay couple sues the pastor. I can almost guarantee that this scenario will happen numerous times in the upcoming future. There are certain close-minded individuals who feel that a church should lose their tax exempt status if they fail to perform marriage ceremonies for gay couples. They are only looking at the rights of the gay couple, not the religious leaders or church. This also includes wedding photographers, cake makers and other people involved in weddings. Unfortunately, you would have to be extremely naive not to think these problems will not happen. The more they happen, the uglier things will get. Moral and religious issues are among the most divisive ones that we have in this country. This ruling only promise to intensify an already bitter feud become people of faith and those who support gay rights.
As many people probably have figured out from reading some of my posts, I am not a fan of same-sex marriages for some of the reasons listed above. If you want to call me a bigot, that is fine. By the way, if you call me and others who do not favor same-sex marriages bigots as well, you are also calling God a bigot. Marriage was created by him for a man and women to live together, share their lives together and raise a family. The old-fashioned way of marriage involving a man and woman loving each other until death is the best form of marriage. Many of these loving relationships produce good children who are a very valued part of our society. I have very serious doubts whether redefining marriage is in the best interests of this country. Having a small number of people try to rewrite it and force it down the rest of our throats is not right and may be one of the worst decisions the Supreme Court has ever made. Get ready people of the United States, the war has only started. This issue is far from being accepted by many people. There are bound to be many problems and legal fights in the future.